StarTypes analysis excels in relationship analysis and we will be going into much more detail about each of the four most common relationship roles that StarType covers, but first let's make sure that we are clear about what we mean by relationship, and this holds true for all relationships: lovers, friends, not-so-friends, and co-workers.
Any relationship of two persons, given time, usually resolves itself into one of four main general styles or types, in which each partner in the relationship takes on a particular role. Of course, the two classic roles are that of the "Lover" and the "Loved One," as in Romeo is the lover and Juliet is the object of his love or loved one. StarType analysis can tell you ahead of time who is likely to be the Lover and who the Loved One. To make it easier, we use four colors to mark the four major types of relationships:
GREEN: The green-bordered cards represent "The Lover" StarType. They take on the role of the lover, the observer and annotators, and the caretaker of the relationship.
RED: The red-bordered StarType cards are reserved for the "Loved One" type, the ones who are watched, cared for, and observed. These are the StarTypes with all the charisma. They like attention and usually take on the role of the watched - the Loved One.
BLUE: Some chart patterns have both roles in a single natal chart, the role of the Lover and the Loved One. When both qualities ("Loved On" and "Lover") appear in the same chart, these are termed â€”Independent" StarTypes, and their borders are blue. They can go both ways. In some relationships they take on the role of the Lover, but in others they assume the role of the Loved One. They are somewhat self-contained.
ROSE: And last, there is a small group of StarTypes that demand a lot of contact and relations, called appropriately the "Multi-Relationship" StarTypes, which have rose colored borders.
The StarType cards you will encounter will have red, green, blue, and rose borders. There are a few other cards which are not main StarTypes that have cream-colored borders. They are smaller patterns that make up what we called the astrological toolbox. More about this later on.
The Four Relationship Families
That completes an overview of the four main relationship types, the four families. As mentioned above, the four families are easy to spot, because they are color-coded; each StarType card's border has the color of the relationship type to which it belongs. Here again is a brief summary of four relationship types.
The two most traditional relationship types are those of the Lover and the Loved One, and each of us can play either role, depending on the StarType of the person we are relating to. In other words, with some people we play (or are forced to play) the role of lover or caretaker, what my mom used to call the "bigger person," in that we pick up the socks and clean up the mess, probably simply because we care more and can't stand the mess. Right?
Yet, with other people, we may end up being more of the Loved One, with someone else taking care of us and cleaning up our mess. We get nagged at in this role. Our roles change, depending on who we are relating to. That's what makes the world go 'round, as they say.
The Lover and the Loved One are the Romeo and the Juliet, the archetype roles that make up the classic relationship that the bards have been singing about all of these many centuries.
By looking at StarType cards, we can see at a glance which persons may tend to enjoy and take on the role of the Lover, the principal caretaker in relationships, and which prefer to be the Loved One, the one who gets all that attention and care. It is as simple as the see-er and the seen. The Lover is the one who sees and dotes on the Loved One, the one who likes to be seen.
Not all persons can be neatly grouped into the role of the "Lover" or the "Loved One." Some folks have both qualities and they make up a group that I call the "Independent" type, because they really can kind of do it all by themselves. They have both archetypes in one chart. In this way, the Independent types are self-sufficient and less needy than the other two, and tend to enjoy being alone and on their own, which does not mean they don't have relationships. They do.
However, they don't need relationships as much as the others and sometimes can go for quite a spell without feeling the need to interact a lot, often to the frustration of their partner. In this way, they are, just as their name suggests, more independent than the rest of us. When they do relate, just how they relate will depend on a combination of their particular chart qualities and what qualities in their partner's chart happen to attract or draw them on, for relationships are all about attraction.
So we have the Lover, the Loved One, and the Independent. As mentioned, when I first began to study relationships, some thirty-plus years ago, I thought that was it, these three types. However, over time I came to understand there was one more type of relationship, which I term the Multi-relational, and this brings the total of main types to four.
The Multi-relational type is just that: they require lots of relationships and contact. However, don't jump to the conclusion that I am saying this type is promiscuous. That is not how I am using the word "multi-relational."
What I mean is that this particular type loves to meet new people and see new places, and never seem to tire or get enough of what the rest of us soon have enough of, whatever we could agree that is. They keep going, where the other types are ready to head home for the day. However, the multi-relational type is similar to the Lover and the Loved One types in that all three of these types are happiest in a relationship. They are "needy" in this way, while the Independent types are not.